My advice for self love

Living a positive life first starts with loving yourself. Waking up in the mornings and going about your day with a positive attitude makes a huge difference in your life, but I think the first step is learning how to appreciate and love the person you are. At 21 years old, I am still trying to figure out how to love myself completely. I have grown so much in the past 3 years of college being away from family and relationships. I learned a lot about what I want and who I want to be. I had to figure out that in order to be the woman I want to become I have to first learn to love myself in the process. There are 5 things I think are essential to learning to love yourself.

  1. Self Care: It is okay to be sad sometimes but do not neglect yourself. Take care of your body, mind and soul. This has been the key to my happiness when I am stressed. Going to the gym after a rough day relieves my stress. There is nothing like putting on some headphones and tuning out the world. Devote some time everyday to yourself! Whether it is putting a face mask on, going for a run, or painting. Do what YOU love to do for a short time everyday.

  2. Being optimistic about life: I always believed that the energy you put out into the world will eventually come back to you. Be hopeful and confident about your future. Think less about the negative things going on in your life and more about the positives, which leads me to my next point.

  3. Cut out the negative thoughts: I think this is the hardest part. We all have thoughts about self-doubt, thinking we are not good enough. I think the hardest part of being in this generation is self comparison. Looking at everyone around you, the same age, whose doing better than you. Comparison is THE thief of joy. If you find yourself comparing, immediately try to stop thinking about the negative thoughts.

  4. Forgive yourself for your mistakes: Every single person you know is human. We all make mistakes big or small. We all have regrets. Holding on to the past will only keep you there. No one knows or understands YOUR story, so forget them!

  5. Have a purpose: I think this is the most important. I try to wake up every morning and remind myself of my purpose in life, the end ultimate goal. Remind yourself what you want out of life, and wake up every morning with a short-term goal to work towards. I have found this so helpful in changing my attitude towards my day no matter what mood I wake up in.

    Overall, it is important to learn to love yourself then everything else will fall into place.